They met the previous day at a social-media marketing conference and became buddies, sitting side by side while Kelly trolled Tinder and he swiped through Grindr. He has also written for New York magazine, Paper, and The Huffington Post.It's after-hours at a bar in San Francisco, and Kelly, a straight 19-year-old college student, is making out with a gay guy.
Previously, he was a features writer at WWD and W Magazine. Jacob Bernstein is a senior reporter at The Daily Beast. Plus: Check out more of the latest entertainment, fashion, and culture coverage on Sexy Beast-photos, videos, features, and Tweets. Gay porn is an opportunity to watch them get f-.” “We’re so used to watching men in our lives wield power. It throws a monkey wrench into the idea that women are receptacles.” Because what are you going to do with a woman? Get a telescope and a sponge and a paper towel?”Ī few lesbians I spoke to suggested that the members of the tribe who watch gay porn are in fact getting off on a fantasy, in which the man is subjugated and used in the way women frequently are.Īs Jen, another gay porn-loving lesbian, put it: “It’s a surrendering of male privilege. “But I think there’s something about seeing a penis become erect that’s a turn-on for lesbians. “I have no sexual attraction to men,” said the comedienne Judy Gold. Others think that particular fascination is largely metaphorical, a chance to see desire externalized, a point Julianne Moore’s character actually makes in the movie. “I’ve always been fascinated by the hydraulics-if I had a dick, how would it work?” “For me, it’s partly about wanting to have a cock,” she said. “I think it’s also an opportunity to watch a kind of role-playing that lesbians are into,” she said.įor Alex, there are also deeper, less politically correct, desires at work. She is not a viewer of man-on-man action, but knows many gay women who are. Or as Mike Alvear, host of HBO’s The Sex Inspectors, wrote in a recent blog post: “They’re not so much looking at the players in the play, but the roles that they’re playing.” She added: “You don’t have to want to have sex with a man to be attracted to masculinity in a specifically sexual context.” “So when there’s no women around, it… gives queer women the ability to get swept up in the action of the film without thinking, ‘Who is this woman? Is she having a good time? Is she coerced?’ With gay porn, for a second, we can go there and not think about politics and sexism… there’s something about removing women from the equation that’s freeing.” “Our feminism remains with us when we grab the remote,” said Tristan Taormino, a sex educator and producer of erotica. Moreover, most of the pornography featuring lesbian action was actually made by straight men for straight men. Other lesbians who came of age in the feminist and post-feminist era told me that the role assigned to women in straight pornography was frequently in opposition with the ideal they strived for in their daily lives, making the movies hard to watch. “It never seemed like they were having fun.” “There’s too much plastic surgery,” she said, adding that the women look “like cyborgs.” And the movies she watched were depressing. For one thing, she doesn’t find female porn stars attractive, no matter whether they’re starring in movies featuring men and women or girl-on-girl action.
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This Week’s Culture Feast: Film, Music, Art, and TV PicksLevy directed me to her friend Alex (not her real name), who told me why she prefers watching gay male porn rather than straight pornography, or women with women.“I don’t do it, I don’t understand it, but I know so many dykes that watch gay porn,” said Ariel Levy, a writer for The New Yorker who has written on gender and sexuality for the magazine.
“Why would a couple of lesbians want to watch us having sex?”Īs it happens, lesbians liking male gay pornography is not an unknown phenomenon. “I was totally confused,” said a gay man after seeing the film.